Who Cares What They Think?

Confidence can sometimes be misconstrued as arrogance, ha

ve you ever noticed that? Have you ever met someone that's just got that swag about them? Like they just go about life with a certain presence and it's crystal clear that they could give two shits what anyone thinks else about them. I've noticed that many people seem to view those "confident" people as rude, or arrogant. And possibly in some cases, that could be true, but not always, and not usually.

From my perspective, I look at it from a completely different lense.

As far back as I can remember, my parents taught me to always believe in myself, stay positive in all situations, be confident, and don't EVER worry about what others think or say about you. As long as you know in your soul that you are doing the right things & being a good person, then you don't need to worry about anyone elses opinion, that's just their own personal insecurity which truly doesn't even involve you.

But, I have come to find out that belief isn't always popular among the masses. I think the real reason is that most people are actually uncomfortable and fear to be who they truly are in front of others, so they mock confident people out of either jealousy or just pure ignorance.

Me personally, I am an extremely friendly person. I love people, I can get along with just about anyone, but I know I have a big personality & I think that makes some people feel awkward around me. Growing up I was always a part of the "popular crowd," I played many different sports, had tons of friends in several different cliques and age groups, I always had something going on and I was a bit of a class clown you might say, I enjoy laughing and making people laugh. As I've gotten older and joined the professional world I have found my balance and I know when to turn it on and when to turn it off.

But recently, I have been told that I can come off as unapproachable........

Me.... unapproachable? The person who truly whole heartedly believes that I get along with everyone, and have zero beef with anyone to name. This literally blew my mind! Like, I was in complete shock when I heard this. At first I felt really bad, I went through different scenarios in my head of recent interactions and group settings I had been in and tried to replay how I could've potentially acted or said something differently as to not make whoever may have felt that way feel that way.

And then it very quickly hit me like a ton of bricks!

I could give 2 shits!!! If anyone feels like they can't approach me, then guess what, that is their problem, not mine. I refuse to change my upbeat confident attitude to fit inside anyone's box of comfort, that's just not how I roll. So I am here to tell you, it's ok to be confident and it's not a sign of arrogance, it's a sign that you are mature, you have self worth and you don't care what anyone else thinks of you, because you my friend are a badass! Don't ever walk on egg shells or change your personality for anyone EVER.